What It's Like to Fly Off the High Dive

La ilaha il Allah. That was the climb, and now I'm in mid-air. My stomach is full of excitement and I am light.

When I first took shahada the next months were spent full of fear. Fear of what would be said about me, fear about my ability to follow through, fear that taking this step was something I could not reverse. I was afraid of how my family would feel, what my friends would say, and about whether I'd find someone who would love me despite my 'strangeness.' Fear really ruled my life, January through August. Sometimes it was better than others. Sometimes it was nearly unbearable. I've always been a "hope for the best, prepare for the worst," type of person, and unfortunately, this new and difficult change was something one cannot prepare for, which compounded my anxiety. In the beginning I was met with a cacophony of reactions, but I was certain that even the most supportive of my friends would change their minds upon seeing me pray or realizing that this was 'for real.' Some did. Some really awful things were said to me. The worst did happen. And coming out of it, I still had faith. I had no choice.

And then, Alhamdulillah, I saw Ramadan approach.

I took a deep breath, I closed my eyes, I rolled my shoulders back...

I prayed with people. I carved out time to learn new surahs and began making sure I woke up for fajr. I practised fasting. I made du'a. I put on hijab and drove myself to the masjid. I've forced myself to endure the quizzical stares (and made sure I didn't mistake them for hostile ones). I ignored the hostile ones. I've allowed myself to be corrected when I made mistakes. I began to give salaams even if they aren't returned. I began answering questions (even the hard ones) and promoting discussion with the people who matter to me. And finally I'm not afraid anymore. And this has nothing to do with me. This has to do with five. Five prayers a day, every day, to the One that matters. It has to do with swallowing hard, choosing faith and diving in. It has to do with feeling certain that I'll belly flop, knowing that it will hurt, and doing it anyway because it's worse to stand on that wavering board so far up, looking down.

People ask me about my path to Islam almost every day. Surely every time I enter a mosque and tell someone my name, the questions begin. It happens when I'm buying groceries and the butcher mistakes me for one of his, speaks to me in Egyptian, and I have to ask him to slow down, in my own halting formal Arabic. He smiles, asks my name, where I'm from, and yells for his buddies to come meet "the convert who passes for shami." Non muslims wonder too, for different reasons. After jumu'a today I stopped by Old Navy. I was still wearing hijab because I can't bring myself to take it off in public. The man at the register was really nice, but spoke a bit loudly to me, and enunciated unnecessarily. I smiled, choosing not to be annoyed and handed him my credit card. "Katherine Downing!" he exclaimed. I just laughed and said "that's me!" Because it is.

Everyone is curious. And I don't mind. So I might as well get comfortable in this space.

What everyone else thinks or thought or will think in the future is out of my control, and if I get caught up in predicting it or worrying about it, I'll miss the point entirely, which is to get comfortable with my place in the world, to be a good person and cultivate my connection with Allah, who encompasses and commands all those things. That's my perspective, and I believe that if I believe, the rest will fall into place, insha Allah. And it has been falling into place, more neatly than I'd even hoped it would.

Johnell at work, for example, surprised me today. I walked out of the office bathroom wearing hijab, getting ready to go to prayer. "Wow!" he responded. I looked at the floor bashfully - it was the first time my co-workers saw me wearing it. Before I could speak he said, "Girl, you still fine. Do what you do. Don't look at the floor. See you after prayer." I opened my mouth. Closed my mouth. Smiled and went to prayer.

I really couldn't ask for more.

But then, my friend Melissa came over for dinner. We've known each other since middle school. She's been incredibly supportive of my Islam, almost unquestioningly so. We broke the fast at 7:14 with dates and milk. I explained why, and then I went to pray. I prayed maghrib in my office, and when I finished I looked up to find her crying in the doorway. "I hope I didn't scare you," I said, "it's just prayer..."

"No, Katie," she responded, "You are beautiful that way. I hope it's ok, I wanted to pray with you."

And so, I reiterate, I could not ask for more.

And this is what it's like to fly off the high dive. You climb and you climb to the top of the diving board. It takes forever. Your heart begins to race. You hesitate mid-climb, you look down and realize you can't climb down. You get to the top, the board is slippery with water. You hear the echos of swimmers below. Your whole body tenses. You walk, gingerly, toes pointed, scared. The board vibrates. You almost lose your balance. You get to the edge, your weight bends the board, you bounce, you hesitate, and then you breathe... At this point, you've waited as long as possible, you have no other option. You jump. And really, the climb is much much scarier than the descent.